Overwhelm

Does overwhelm bring out the control freak in you? 

Lord, does it bring out the control BITCH in me!  I could write pages and pages about why it does it, what I do to deal with it and most of all I can make lists and schedules.  But, I suspect that my writing pages and pages is in fact a sign of overwhelm.  It is as if all those words will lead me out of the town called Overwhelm and into the State of Bliss.

Language has such clear structure and orderliness to it. Writing gives me such great sense of power over my mind and better yet, it means that I can lay on the couch, feeling important, while nothing else gets done. 

Action can help overwhelm but mostly it just leads to more confusion and indecision. Which do I do first? Gosh, maybe I'd better sit down and write a list to sort out my priorities.  Pick one?  Okay, but what about those twenty other balls I've got tossed into the air?

The trick is to think of overwhelm as distraction from the thread I mentioned a few posts back.  But for those of you who are too overwhelmed to add looking for that post to their list, here's my idea once again.

Your heart has been whispering to you since you were a baby.  Basically, our heart's desire is a really crappy communicator.  Most of the time it is too quiet to hear, other times it is screaming at you so loudly that all you can do is shut it out.  The rest of the time it just sits there resisting all your attempts to do anything other than obey it's indistinct, difficult to achieve and seemingly illogical demands.  Still, our hearts beat for one thing only and that one thing is to achieve your heart's desire. 

I think of my heart's desire as a thread and the actuality of it as the eye of a needle.  If I can get that thread through the needle, I will be living my heart's desire and it will be very fine indeed. 

The problem is that I am trying to thread this needle in the dark, with a lot of noisy, bumping, irritating things that keep getting in the way (my bad habits).  Not only that, but my hands are shaky, the thread keeps sticking to my callouses and worst of all my body is cramping up from the effort.  

Now add people, animals, bills, dishes, etc. to the mix and you have what I call a challenging situation in which to thread a needle.  A.K.A. Overwhelm.

The only way to thread a needle under these conditions is to keep your focus on the thread, your hand and the eye of the needle- not the other side of it, the front of it.  It requires a combination of soft and hard focus.  Sticking out your tongue and shutting one eye also helps.  Breathe, believe, and most of all go slow- especially when that tiny end sticks out on the other side for you to grab.

In short, when overwhelmed you must concentrate on the really, really important thing in your life: your heart's desire.

If it's hard to hear try just sitting still and listen to its beating.  Then do exactly what it tells you.  You'll know it's the real thing because it will almost always start with the phrase, "trust me".

Good luck!

Finding Love Quietly

Most of us are really good at giving.  Some of us are really good at receiving.   We all secretly think we are really pretty simple to be with and that everyone else is a lot of work.   We’ve all heard the “you have to love yourself first” and the “give up and it will come” crap of the self-help gurus.  And even though we know better, I can guarantee that there isn’t a soul on the face of this Earth who doesn’t believe that the romance played out on the big screen is impossible.   We all want it.  We all want in on that mysterious thing called love.

Here’s the secret- no it isn’t out there in the Universe waiting for you to learn how to ask for the cookie correctly (see my Barnyard Philosophy page for more on that):

If you really want to be loved, all you have to do is shut up about it. 

Seriously… stop yapping.  Quit the agonistic poetry.  Turn off the TV.  Put down the book.  Leave your poor lover alone.  Stop reciting affirmations.  No crying allowed.

Just SHUT UP!

 
Do this for a few days.

We'll talk about it then.