Most of us are really good at giving. Some of us are really good at receiving. We all secretly think we are really pretty simple to be with and that everyone else is a lot of work. We’ve all heard the “you have to love yourself first” and the “give up and it will come” crap of the self-help gurus. And even though we know better, I can guarantee that there isn’t a soul on the face of this Earth who doesn’t believe that the romance played out on the big screen is impossible. We all want it. We all want in on that mysterious thing called love.
Here’s the secret- no it isn’t out there in the Universe waiting for you to learn how to ask for the cookie correctly (see my Barnyard Philosophy page for more on that):
If you really want to be loved, all you have to do is shut up about it.
Seriously… stop yapping. Quit the agonistic poetry. Turn off the TV. Put down the book. Leave your poor lover alone. Stop reciting affirmations. No crying allowed.
Just SHUT UP!
Do this for a few days.
We'll talk about it then.